Closure
Not having closure is like not having a punctuation mark at the end of a sentence or a complete
(See what I did there?)
I have been in deep thought lately about the word 'closure.' What does it mean to have true closure over a situation, a relationship? Is not having closure a bad thing? Does closure really help us move on with things in our life to focus on better things for us? So many thoughts begin to race my mind as I think of the simple word 'closure.' However, while it may be a simple word to speak it is not a simple word to digest in means of living and moving on. (This may sound scattered, but bear with me. I promise that I am doing my best to explain my over-thinking mind.)
Closure
Not having closure is like not having a punctuation mark at the end of a sentence
Ever had a break up where there was absolutely no closure? It can drive one mad, I tell you. Not knowing the what-if's, not knowing if your ex is over you, not knowing if there could ever be anything "better." Like I said, it can drive one mad.
However, the word 'closure' is technically defined as coming to an end. So if something stops unexpectedly, a relationship ends suddenly, has the circumstance not ended? Even if it may not be "over" or "ended" in our minds, the situation has still ended. Hasn't it? But then again, my mind is mad because I have lacked closure so the answer is not a simple yes... Or is it?
Notice if you take the first three letters away of the word 'closure' you are left with the word
'
sure.' Ironic? Maybe. Maybe not.
(By the way, I am not getting technical here, okay? I am just analyzing the word 'closure' for myself. So yes, what I may make notice of may be completely false; but welcome to my thought process. After all, is reading my blog mainly to read my thought process anyway?)
So... back to the word '
sure.' How are you
sure that you have
closure? Are you sure when you don't think about the situation or person anymore or for at least long periods of time? (Say, um, two days straight? Ha, okay.)
Maybe being
sure that you finally have closure is knowing that yes, every now and then you will be reminded of the situation or person, but deep down in your heart you know "the end" is better for you. You know that you are happier without...
Even if that means you don't have full closure? This brings me to my next point of my scattered thoughts.
Closure
Not having closure is like not having a complete
So what if you are sure that you have closure. What if not having closure is having closure. Okay, okay this sounds like the saying, "You can't have your cake and eat it too." But again, just bear with me. What if you know without a doubt that the situation or relationship is over. There does not need to be closure because you are able to follow your gut instinct, your heart to know that it is over. So, whether or not you and the people involved have had mutual closure, you know that not having closure is having closure. A sure form of closure. Make sense? Okay. (I am going to pretend you nodded yes.)
Different scenario: What if you aren't certain that the situation or relationship is over, yet you know that you will never go back even if the opportunity did arise? Is not that having closure? Again, this closure may not be mutual especially considering that you could possibly go back to the situation. However, you know that it is best (whether you want to or not) not to go back to the situation or relationship. Is that not a form a closure? While this may not be a sure form of closure, you still have closure. Make sense? Okay. (Again, you are nodding your head yes in my mind.)
Closure
All in all, maybe
not having an ending punctuation mark or complete thought is perfectly
God Bless,
Kaitie