A Cherished Friendship

This is a blog that I wrote on another account one evening. I would like to share it with you on this account. Maybe you can relate... :)

Today I saw one of my very best friends from high school. We attend the same college, but have different majors so we rarely see each other. However, whenever we do run into each other we always stop and talk. Typically, these talks end up being about thirty minutes or so. After every conversation I always leave so thankful for the friendship I have with him. 

He is one of those guys that is shy until you get to know him, but once he is comfortable around you he is one of the funniest, most kind-hearted guys you will ever know. We always joke around and mess with each other. In fact, if we haven't seen each other in awhile we will send each other corny jokes via text. 

He is one of those guys who could know everything bad about me and still respect who I am and treat me with dignity. It does not matter if we haven't talked in years, we always pick right back up where our last conversation had ended. 

No, I don't want him to be my boyfriend. His friendship is of great value to me and I respect him for everything he is and does. I will make sure that I always stay in touch with him for I know his friendship is one that will last a lifetime. It is a cherished friendship.

God Bless,

Kaitie

I'm Afraid You'll Forget

I just listened to the song Edge of Desire by John Mayer. I have to be honest, I absolutely love this song. As I was listening, I was paying attention to the words more than I ever have. A phrase that stood out to me the most was this:

I want you so bad I'll go back on the things I believe.

There I just said it, 

I'm afraid you'll forget about me. 

Think about those words for a moment. Let them sink in. What do they mean and speak to you?

Here's the part where I tell you what they mean to me... You ready? Okay.

Well, I think about how often we as human-beings will not stand-firm in something that we believe because we are afraid of losing a relationship whether that be a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, a friendship, or even a family member.

Maybe we will go back on something we believe in a class that doesn't share the same religious views so in order to make an A we disregard our beliefs. 

Maybe it is even materialistic and we are afraid of losing something that it causes us to lie. 

I know that this song is talking about relationship. I get that, but how often do we even see this outside of boyfriend/girlfriend relationships?

People who want to please those around them - People Pleasers - don't want to disappoint so they do everything they can do to make people like them.

People don't want to be forgotten about. When people feel like they are being forgotten or becoming lost to the person they love, they will do ridiculous things to gain their attention back.

I've seen it. You have probably seen it. I have been a victim. And you yourself have probably been a victim.

We need to be able to recognize when it is okay to step out of comfort zones, not disregard our beliefs, but also notice a different perspective to show that we truly care about people. 

Don't cause someone to give up on something they believe in by making them feel like they are going to lose you.

Homosexuality is a hot topic right now. Therefore, I am going to use this as an example... I have some very good friends who are gay. Do I agree with it? No, I don't. Do they know where I stand on the issue? Yes, they do. Do they know that I still love them and will be there for them? Absolutely, they do!

Just because I don't agree with something doesn't mean that I will leave them stranded. Some of my friends don't agree with everything I may say, think, or do, but do I feel like they hate me and are going to desert me as a friend. No, I don't. Not by any means.

In conclusion, I know this blog was kind of random; but I hope that you got what I was trying to say. Again, yes I know that Edge of Desire is a song about a relationship, but when I tend to ponder words and phrases I can learn so much that even the artist or author was not trying to teach. I guess it's just the writer in myself. I love to analyze words. Haha.

God Bless,

Kaitie 

Think Too Much?

You know that feeling when your brain says one thing and your heart says another?

Do you go with your thoughts? Do you follow your heart?

It's difficult enough to follow your heart. It doesn't help that as a girl your thoughts run rampant.

If there is ever a time when both your thoughts and heart align, dive in! There is nothing more calming then knowing both your heart and thoughts agree with one another.

God Bless,
Kaitie

Someone To Believe In You

Sometimes all it takes for you to get the motivation you need is to know that someone else believes in you.

I know for myself that whenever I feel inadequate, when I get the encouragement of a respected friend or respected adult it makes me believe in myself.

I know also that for myself when I begin to feel inadequate it is because I am comparing myself to those around me.

I feel like so much today we are comparing ourselves to those around us. We need to STOP. God has not intended for us to compare ourselves to others. He has not intended for us to compare our strengths, our talents, our looks, our possessions, anything to others.

God has a purpose, a plan, for each one of His children that only they themselves can fulfill. My purpose is different from yours and requires for me to have different talents, a different personality than you. That does not make better. That does not make me any less important. We are the body of Christ.

STOP comparing yourself to others. Believe in yourself. Find inspiration in the little things. When you find yourself being self-critical reevaluate yourself to make sure you are not comparing yourself to those around you. Pray to God and ask that He allow you to see yourself the way that He sees you.

God has given you a purpose that only you can fulfill. God believes in you. God believes in me. He has trusted us to fulfill a plan. He is using us to do His Kingdom work on the earth because He believes in us. He believes in you.

I don't know about you, but to know that God believes in me is the best motivation I can have.

God Bless,
Kaitie

Best Friend Therapy

Sometimes all you need in life is your best friend to talk things over with. 

I love my best friend so much. She is always there to listen to me vent. 

She tells me what I need to hear.

Sometimes I talk to her because I now she is bias. Haha.

And there are other times when I just need to talk and she just listens.

She knows I will and I have done the same for her.

It's called Best Friend Therapy and it really works.

My BFF and I!

God Bless,

Kaitie

Secret Admirer

From Google Images

I have always loved receiving handwritten letters. There is nothing more exciting to me than opening up my mailbox to find a letter from a long-lost friend. With technology letters aren't as common as they used to be. It is kind of disheartening if you think about. I love the time that someone takes to actually sit down and write a letter. A handwritten letter. It means something more than just the everyday text or email.

I was thinking the other day how neat it would be to have a secret admirer. I know, I am old-fashioned and this blog is proving it. But just hear me out for a second. How sweet would it be for you to go to your mailbox and find a handwritten letter from a boy stating that he thinks you are an amazing girl with a gorgeous smile. It would make your heart pound, wouldn't it? 

Would you write back? Let's say yes, you would write back. To be honest, I would. I have no clue what I would write. Maybe I would ask some of his favorite hobbies, if he hangs out with my friend group, etc. But there would be one thing constantly on my mind... What does this boy look like? 

It is very important that you attracted to someone you date. Looks aren't everything. This is for certain, but you do have to be attracted to the person you date. 

So... let's say that you and your secret admirer have been writing back and forth for a quite awhile. You have fallen for this guy within the exchange of handwritten letters that get longer and longer the more you write to each other. It is finally time that you find out who your secret admirer is. You are nervous. You are excited. You... don't think he's attractive. 

What do you do now? You don't think this is guy is attractive. At all. But you LOVE his personality and all the letters and feelings that are exchanged. What do you do? Friend-zone him? Ignore him the rest of your life? Both seem logical, right?

To be honest, I think I would friend zone him. I know that makes me sound awful, but I don't want to ignore this guy whom I have a lot in common with. A guy who genuinely thinks I am an amazing girl. What do you say to him? Look, I really have enjoyed this back and forth communication, but I'm just not attracted to you physically? Yeah, okay. I don't know. I've never been in this situation. Remember, I'm speaking hypothetically. 

You wouldn't want to lead him on though. That would not be right by any means. Don't pretend to be attracted to someone you aren't.

However, let me say this. The more you look at the good in people and fall in love with someone's personality the more they become attractive to you. Seeing beautiful things in people make them beautiful to you. You find yourself actually thinking they are attractive. I have experienced this. I promise it happens. They might not be the hottest human-being, but you aren't either. Sorry, but it's the truth.

Anyway, this is not my point. If you have made it this far in reading this blog, then props to you. You are about to read the true meaning of the reason I spent the time typing this blog. (If only, I could handwrite it for you.) 

So here it goes....

What if you were the secret admirer? What if you were writing to this guy that you wanted to notice you? A guy you truly could see yourself being with? Okay, so I don't have the guts to write a handwritten love note to a guy; but we are being hypothetical and I do. 

So... I write this love letter expressing my feelings. The guy writes back and we begin to write back and forth. This is going somewhere. Well, until we meet face-to-face and he doesn't think I'm beautiful. What happens? Does he friend-zone me? Does he ignore me?

What if... I was writing to Jesus. We met face-to-face and He didn't want anything to do with me because I was so ugly. I was unattractive. Well, you see the thing is I am unattractive because of the sin that is in my life. I am rotten to the core. Jesus doesn't like it. 

However, He doesn't turn His back on me because He has fallen in love with me. He wants a relationship with me. He see's the good in me and that makes me beautiful. The cool thing is that Jesus can take all the ugliness, unattractiveness in my life and make it beautiful.

He makes me beautiful because He sees the girl who loves Him and is committed to being a better person for Him. He sees a girl who is committed to following Him. He sees His not-so-secret admirer, His daughter reaching for help in this crazy life.  

The best thing in all of this is that Jesus died for me to make me beautiful even before I was His not-so-secret-admirer. What love!

Seek the beauty in other people. Not the negative. Let Jesus make you beautiful from the inside out.

God Bless,

Kaitie

Wanted

I was watching a movie the other day called October Baby. Yes, I cried.

For those of you who do not know, I was born in October and I was adopted by my daddy. So this movie really got me thinking about how blessed I am that I am wanted.

I love my momma and daddy with my whole being. God could not have blessed me with better parents who care and want the best for me. God has given me parents who truly want me, who truly love me.

Don't you just love the feeling of being worth something to someone? Everyone wants that feeling. We all have the desire to be needed by someone. Some of us fill this desire of being wanted by earthly things and earthly love.

We fail to realize that God wants us. He truly loves and cares for us.

This gaping hole that needs to be filled, God can fill. While God is my number one, He blessed me with a godly, God-fearing daddy to fill the need of an earthly father. A daddy who truly wants me while my bi-logical dad could care less.

My daddy is my hero. My daddy is my only daddy. I love him for all he is. I love him and am grateful that he wanted me.

God Bless,
Kaitie